Dating as a Woman: We are All on the Same Grain of Sand

So, my friend and I took a girls' only trip to a tropical spot together.  We are old friends from high school and hadn't really spent time together talking in eons.  So, being retired from marraige, but interested in love, the talks naturally turned to men, love, relationships and how dysfunctional they can be.  What did we discover?  We are all on the same grain of sand.  Guess what?  You aren't the only woman who has experienced the following:  an abusive relationship (emotional or physical), a mate who has disconnected, indifference, passion, surprise, or a man who says one thing, but does another.  We found that even though we hadn't spoken personally or intimately with each other in over 25 years, our life and love experiences were frightenly similar.    And now, after marraige, illness, children, careers are now seeking the depth of a passionate and caring relationship.  The problem is where are the men who are seeking the same?  Therein lies the rub, there aren't any, not that we can find.